As you can see in the photo, it’s way past my bedtime. Or at least when my bedtime should be. My husband just fell asleep after some intimate pillow talk and whispered conversing. Now, usually, I’d have to put in a good amount of effort into trying to keep him awake enough, with a couple of “why don’t you…” implying questions, but tonight, he was sharing the effort. Open up your mind, talk to me, I tell him. I am able to appreciate him doing so tonight.
Now, we’re not in the most favorable situation at the moment. He’s the only one working, I’m trying to focus between mainly school and baby, and we hardly have any time to do anything really enjoyable. We’re currently living with my sister in law which makes it a little harder for us to have some spatious private time (oxymoron in some sense), and to create our own environment for our little growing family, although, we have been blessed with needed financial slack. Bottom line, this time in our lives have hit the first burn running up our hill towards success. Our “living the dream” has not yet launched it’s glorious effect, but we are getting there. Slowly but surely.
I just imagine the day he comes home with such a smile on his face that lasts for hours, to minutes, to seconds up until we fall asleep together in each others arms. I mean literally, spooning. If we had a label, our tagline would say “Spooning since 2006 ©” ha! Well, I have to say, I feel that we are one in the small percentage of married/unmarried couples who are seemingly unbearably glued to each other most nights. But we love it! It just seems right.
And now back to the pillow talk. Nights like these, when he’s stressed out from work, about life, about us, I cannot bear his mood. Not in an “I’m annoyed!” way but in an “my husband is not happy (sad face)” way. I hate it! When he is happy, unless I’m upset or annoyed, I’m happy. When he is unhappy, I’m not happy. I am reciprocally emotionally connected to him. And tonight was one of those heartfelt nights.
See, I truly believe that it is extremely important for marriages to rest on a solid foundation consisting of three things. 1. Mind; share with each other every single thought, idea, bit of intellect, opinion, value, negativity, positivity, etc. 2. Body; share a kiss for every hi and see you later, a hug for every chance you get, a couple of brushes here and there, playful childish quarrels, or some spooning! And 3. Soul; give each other your everything. Enough said.
It may sound cliché. Yeah yeah. But if it is a basis for reaching potential for oneself, imagine how powerfully effective it is for lovers, married and unmarried. That’s right, what we have is a powerful relationship. We fight, we make up. When either one of us are falling apart, we are always available for each other. When we need to laugh, we tell a joke. It’s so simple!
When, at the end of the day, and you’re mentally drained, exhausted, and checked out of the world, remember to rest your head on your pillow, position yourself face to face with your partner and say, talk to me.
It is such a fulfilling moment if executed successfully, and you’ll be sure to have a peaceful drift…towards…sleep.